ASKING & RECEIVING
Here’s what I’m better at than most: helping you change the story in your head, so you can rapidly produce results in the world.
Not only can I show you how that uninvited posse in your head sets the limits, I can show you how to release those limits when you set the right conversation in motion.
I wasn't born this way.
by all accounts...
I was not one of those natural-born charmers who at age 8 could approach anyone with an audacious request--and magically entice them to say "yes!" despite their better judgment.
I was so shy it hurt. I couldn’t speak to more than one person without hearing drumbeats. My parents were delighted when I made it through high school without incident.
I didn’t know it then, but my leadership style was Ms. Idealist. Natural caretaker and true believer who never stops hoping? Yep, that’s me. Asking for what I wanted in life felt contrary to my instincts. I’ve always been more comfortable making sure everyone else is comfortable. Why rock the boat?
This was my story—but it began to change around the time I decided I wanted to change the world. (Or, one tiny piece of it, anyway.)
At age of 18, I was helping a non-profit called The Hunger Project, as a citywide coordinator for Atlanta. In my quest to help reduce world hunger, I quickly realized that the ability to naturally, and authentically, ask for what I wanted was the single biggest success factor in my relationships, earnings, and in building effective organizations.
So, I got good at making requests fast! I worked with several mentors, received a communication/public speaking course scholarship, practiced and practiced, and then practiced some more, until I could speak from my heart rather than my head.
Not only did this lead to $85,000 in donations for THProject that year, but the ability to naturally, effectively, ask for what matters most has since allowed me to spend more than 20 years helping artists, entrepreneurs, and executive leaders move the world with their words.
I started my company 11 years ago, energizing clients like American Express and Ogilvy & Mather with programs that fueled purpose-driven instincts and shifted fear driven attitudes. In 2011, two friends and I started the Gasparilla Music Festival. I'm still blown away that with only 11 brave dreamers, some well designed conversations, unapologetic grit and grins... we had over 6,000 people in attendance in less than 8 months! It surpassed all expectations and still thrives today.
In 2012, I launched Irresistible Requests with a commitment to level the playing field for women. It's been a proven source of achievement and connection for some courageous and committed women, and the best is still yet to come!
It’s important to me that you know: a defining part of my expertise has been failure. I wasn't born with courage or mindsets that inspired success. I’ve been kicked out of catholic school, coaching programs, dropped out of college, failed diets, relationships, and even got my ass kicked by a vc investor three years ago. But it is this—this unifying aspect of being human—and the perspectives I've gleamed along the way, that ultimately makes my skills as valuable as they are. It's the context behind the tools we offer that triples its worth.
After 20 years of consulting and working with over 50,000 people, I’ve realized the secret to high performance, peace of mind and profits wasn’t in developing new modules or getting people to "feel more motivated.” It was in actively creating the proper mindset that shifted how people talk to each other.
In the last year I faced, and recovered from some critical medical challenges. This uninvited guest left behind so many gifts. It's never been clearer to me that when seize our mindset and fully own the power of our voice, something magical begins to happen.
You suddenly stop buying into other people’s opinions of who you are and who you can be. You stop censoring yourself and forget the unexamined rules about what you should and shouldn't say or do. You find yourself BEING your own best expert and get yourself noticed. You make yourself heard and gain control of the way you run your business, spend your time, and choose to delegate the precious minutes of your life. You make good things happen and unleash a supreme sense of sovereignty. That expansive feeling grows with you. This feeling has changed my life. I can’t wait to share it with you.